Children Love to Learn
• Open and honest communication will create a lifelong closeness with your child.
• Routines and responsibilities will let your child know what to expect. When a rule is broken, a natural consequence needs to follow.
• As you teach your child how to be independent, you also need to teach how to be safe.
• Learning how to be a good friend is an important skill you can teach your child
• Your little one is starting to explore the world outside your home. This is exciting, but can be scary!
Children from 4 to 6 years old are:
• Beginning to develop their independence and form real friendships.
• Learning rules to more difficult games.
• Developing important life skills.
Set Limits
When children do something against the rules, explain simply and in a few words:
• That what they did was wrong
• What will happen if the behaviour continues Consequences need to be logical, meaningful, and simple.
Create and Keep Routines
Teach about rules by setting up daily routines.
Children do best when they know what to expect.
In the morning:
• Use the bathroom
• Get dressed
• Have breakfast
At bedtime:
• Take a bath
• Brush teeth
• Read a story
Schedule specific times for TV, video games, and use of the computer. When you know what your child is watching, you can avoid violence and other unacceptable content. Limit “total screen time” to no more than 2 hours a day.
Read at bedtime. This helps your child:
• Settle down after a busy day
• Learn how to read
Have meals together as much as possible.
This is a great way to spend time together and share family traditions, while also teaching good eating habits and table manners.
Take Time to Talk and Listen
Children feel important when adults take the time to talk with them. Talking often, and about many things, helps them gain self-confidence. Ask about friendships and the activities that your child enjoys. Talk about your own best and worst experiences.
Ask your child:
• “What was the best part of today?”
• “What was the hardest part of today?”
Let your child know that it’s OK to have and talk about negative feelings. Share the best and hard parts of your day. This teaches your child that we all have ups and downs.
Assign Responsibility
When young children copy everyday household tasks, they are really learning how to contribute. With your support, tasks will soon be done with few reminders. As children grow older, they can begin to take on real responsibilities, such as:
• Setting the table
• Putting away their toys
• Feeding the pets
• Placing dirty clothes in a basket
Watch your child’s self-esteem grow when given the chance to help out.
Encourage Independence in Bathing and Dressing
At first, this may take a little more time than helping your child get dressed or take a bath, but
it is time well spent. Independence comes with practice, and with your guidance.
If you get the clothes ready the night before, the morning routine will involve only getting dressed. This way, your child can focus on just one thing. Your child may need to be reminded of all the steps.
1 “In the morning, when you get up,
2 First, use the bathroom,
3 Then, take off your PJs,
4 And then, put on your clothes.”
Praise your child’s efforts and successes:
“You did a great job getting yourself ready for school today!”
Help Your Child Become a Good Friend
Four- to six-year-olds are learning what it means to be a friend. They will have fun times as well as arguments and hurt feelings. It can be tempting for parents to try to solve these problems themselves or by talking with the other child’s parent. Instead, guide your child to solve problems. With your help, your child can learn how to solve social problems.
1 Help your child understand the other child’s point of view. “I guess He/She wants a turn too.”
2 Teach your child the following:
◦ Stay calm
◦ Do not hit, grab, or shove
3 Use words:
◦ “I get upset when you talk to me like that.”
◦ “I’m sad you don’t want to play with me.”
◦ “I’m angry you took the ball from me.”
4 Stand close by and watch as the children solve their problem. Being close by puts the children on their best behavior. This is how they begin to develop the confidence and skills to communicate honestly, calmly, and politely with others.
Source Connected Kids: Safe, Strong, Secure (Copyright © 2006 American Academy of Pediatrics)
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